I can't find a setting for automatically save workspace on exit within the interface subcategory in settings.
There it is:
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secondly, I am looking for a way that it will automatically connect to the server when its started up.
As I said in my previous post, this is done via workspace saving. If you have chosen to save the workspace on exit, just connect to the favorite SmartFTP should connect to when starting up, and exit SmartFTP. The next time you start SmartFTP, it will automatically connect to the favorite site you were connected to when you exited SmartFTP. There is no other way to archieve that.
Thirdly, the favorites are all different folders on the same hosting provider so that they all have the same label name (my host) and the difference between them from a selection standpoint is nil.
Why don't you just give them different names, e.g. "myhost (folder a)", "myhost (folder B)" etc.?